Do you ever do something clumsy and tell yourself, ‘Ugh I’m so stupid.’ Or say something dumb and proceed to lecture yourself on how you need to control your mouth?
Though it’s not good, a lot of people have and do fill themselves with toxic opinions of themselves (Myself included).
Even the Israelites did it.
Remember when Moses sent out the 12 spies to check out the Land of Canaan?
The spies found the land overflowing with blessings — a land flowing with milk and honey. Not only did they have ‘milk and honey’ but it was flowing with milk and honey. It was full of riches and blessings!
It was also full of big men — literally giants!
So the report when the spies returned?
**Also, small side note… if you already know this story and want to ignore my little remarks, feel free to skip down to tips. 😊 I’m not offended. 😉)
“It’s a land that really is full of riches and strength and produce. But let’s not take it, the people are too strong there. The cities are strong. Plus giants live there.”
(Okay, that’s my translation of it anyway… check it out, if you question it… it’s Numbers 13:27-29. 😉)
Then, one of the spies, named Caleb, stood up. He disagreed saying, “Let us go up at once and take possession, for we are well able to overcome it.” (And yes, this time I did quote it 😅)
I imagine this next part being really overly dramatic as the people proceed to argue with Caleb’s interpretation and name their fears. They concluded by saying “We were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight.”
(And then they went and cried… all night… I guess their report didn’t make them feel so good! 😅)
Anyways, I love this story because I tend to have toxic opinions of myself too! Actually I’m the queen of those, y’all! (I’m not proud of that, by the way.) Let me tell you, the most common thing I say to myself is, ‘that was stupid.’ So ya, I know how you feel! (Perhaps that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but I definitely think that a lot)
And how do you feel after you lecture yourself?
No better, that’s for sure! (Or maybe even more like the Israelites…😉)
The Israelites failed to even attempt to take the Land of Canaan because they saw themselves as weak — they weren’t considering who God saw them as, and, more importantly, who God is. They looked at their problem instead of their God. If you focus on your problem, then you minimize your God. But when you focus on God, then you maximize your God! (And hence minimize your problem)
Anyways, I’m trying to be more intentional about catching myself from saying/thinking those things. And maybe you are too. So I’d like to share some of the ways I’m doing that. Maybe these tips can help you too, Princess! 🙂
- As soon as you’re gonna say something negative to yourself, replace it with something God thinks about you! If you can’t think of one, it’s time to move to the next tips
2. Go through the book of Ephesians and write down everything God calls you!
3. Write some positive messages on your mirror about your identity in Christ.
4. Focus on God — The more you focus on and magnify your problems, the more you minimize your God. The more you focus on God, the more you minimize your problems.
5. Celebrate! Celebrate your victories! Celebrate your identity! Celebrate your God! You can even celebrate getting back up from failures. Celebrate, celebrate, celebrate.
6.Decorate your room with reminders of your royal identity.
7. Pray! Ask for God’s help in thinking about yourself the way He does!
Princess, I hope that these tips will help you view yourself in light of how God views you! And He thinks you’re precious, loved dearly, valued, a priceless treasure, worth it, saved, sealed, chosen, set apart, made alive, a daughter of God! Princess, your identity is so much more than what you may think about yourselves at any certain time. Also, you’re not being proud to think of yourself like that. It’s the truth. So it’s actually humble for you to think that of yourself!
I hope you have a wonderful day, Princess! ❤️